and it's funny

[pywacket]

that before I had miss Emily I thought attachment parenting was BS.
Now that she's here some of it I just do because it seems like the way to do things...and the way SHE wants things done. We have a bedside co sleeper and she slept in the bed for the first month or so. I hold her all the time --leaving her to cry seems wrong. I can't be as extreme as some, but some of it makes sense.

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[pywacket.livejournal.com]

I'm a little scared to answer that. I have my personal opinions about what is extreme--having a four year old sleeping in your room (on a regular basis) or never being apart from your child, for example. I think pacifiers and playpens have their place too, just not all the time. What's extreme for me may not be for another--

[sarahisrock.livejournal.com]

Oh, don't be scared. I was just curious.
I guess you'd call me extreme then. My kid is 12 months old and sleeps in my bed with me and she is still nursing. She's never been in a playpen, except at someone's house to take a nap, and she never took to a pacifier.
But then that is what I feel is right for her as a child. And if she feels like she needs to snuggle up with me, even when she is 4, on a regular basis at night, well then that is what she needs.
Just my opinion...
Why do you feel like those are bad things?
I am not trying to convert you or judge you. Just wondering....

[pywacket.livejournal.com]

I just have some strong ideas about promoting independence in a child and how I think best to go about it. Of course things have to be modified as you go along, because the child will tell you what she needs as well. I don't think that children should be the center of a universe, but part of a family and that all family members have needs--for space, privacy, nuture etc--that need to be respected. I've seen people focus on children to the detriment of themselves and their spouses and don't want to go down that path.

For the record Emily doesn't much like the pacifier either nor do I try and give it to her often. But then she also didn't want to breastfeed and I wanted to do that. I may not have to worry too much about having an opinionated independant child.

[mattblakk.livejournal.com]

You are so wise. . . I agree. Blake is the wost bed partner anyone ever had.

When he's in my bed, he thinks it's party time, time to jump up and down, roll around and giggle. . . anything but sleep. Having his own bed has been a blessing for me, and he sleeps better than he ever could in my room as I snore horribly.

I really liked what you said about kids being part of a family, and that every family member has needs that are important.