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more on yesterday
Aug. 18th, 2002 12:22 pmI posted this on genderqueer but I wanted to remember it, so I'm putting it here too.
Em is a strapping lass, loud, active and opinionated. She's physically way ahead of things . She is often mistaken for a boy. Which doesn't bother me in the least but bothers those doing the mistaking no end. Yesterday at the doc's for example, she had on a blue outfit. Now em wears clothes from two of my friend's sons as well as friend's daughters. Hey, she's a baby, she spits up and poops on things and oh boy is that hell to get out of lacy bits...Anyway, I just dress her in things that match and don't care if it's pink or blue...but this nice man said "how old is he" and his wife said "that's a girl" and bopped him. He got all embarrassed and said "but he's wearing blue" I said yeah, it happens all the time, no worries. As soon as it sunk in that Em's a girl he went from being all hale and hearty and loud (Em had just gotten 4 month vaccinations) to being quiet and sweet and telling her it was going to be ok. And his attitude towards me (now he was a nice guy) (I was crying from Em getting her shots) went from "oh he's a big boy, he'll be ok." to "poor lil girl." and patting me.
Just a very interesting melange of gender cues and responses there hmmm?
I like that em's a girl --admittedly it scared me at first because my family has a bad track record with oldest daughters (back at least a couple of generations) and because there is still a lot for women to deal with (and I should know having been a sysadmin--still a boy's playing field) but there's all sorts of neat stuff we'll have the opportunity to do --shopping, makeup etc. Not that I wouldn't do that if I had a son if he were interested, but just off the bat there's some typically gendered stuff I'm looking forward to (I was 25 when I really discovered clothes and makeup and I really enjoy it now). I'm also looking forward to baseball (I was the only girl on a boy's team when I was young) and archery and fishing (I won awards for that as a kid). So girl clothes with kittens and such on it (especially the kitty stuff, d'uh) I like and they look cute on her, but so does a soccer outfit and bug hat.
She's wonderful no matter what she has on.
As she will be when she's a teenager and when she's an adult. And I hope she can be loud and quiet, scared and brave, wear slippers and big stompy boots--it's all good.
She can be herself--weird, not weird, spooky, punk, preppy, gay, straight, boy, girl...whatever she turns out to be--and we'll love her no matter what.
Em is a strapping lass, loud, active and opinionated. She's physically way ahead of things . She is often mistaken for a boy. Which doesn't bother me in the least but bothers those doing the mistaking no end. Yesterday at the doc's for example, she had on a blue outfit. Now em wears clothes from two of my friend's sons as well as friend's daughters. Hey, she's a baby, she spits up and poops on things and oh boy is that hell to get out of lacy bits...Anyway, I just dress her in things that match and don't care if it's pink or blue...but this nice man said "how old is he" and his wife said "that's a girl" and bopped him. He got all embarrassed and said "but he's wearing blue" I said yeah, it happens all the time, no worries. As soon as it sunk in that Em's a girl he went from being all hale and hearty and loud (Em had just gotten 4 month vaccinations) to being quiet and sweet and telling her it was going to be ok. And his attitude towards me (now he was a nice guy) (I was crying from Em getting her shots) went from "oh he's a big boy, he'll be ok." to "poor lil girl." and patting me.
Just a very interesting melange of gender cues and responses there hmmm?
I like that em's a girl --admittedly it scared me at first because my family has a bad track record with oldest daughters (back at least a couple of generations) and because there is still a lot for women to deal with (and I should know having been a sysadmin--still a boy's playing field) but there's all sorts of neat stuff we'll have the opportunity to do --shopping, makeup etc. Not that I wouldn't do that if I had a son if he were interested, but just off the bat there's some typically gendered stuff I'm looking forward to (I was 25 when I really discovered clothes and makeup and I really enjoy it now). I'm also looking forward to baseball (I was the only girl on a boy's team when I was young) and archery and fishing (I won awards for that as a kid). So girl clothes with kittens and such on it (especially the kitty stuff, d'uh) I like and they look cute on her, but so does a soccer outfit and bug hat.
She's wonderful no matter what she has on.
As she will be when she's a teenager and when she's an adult. And I hope she can be loud and quiet, scared and brave, wear slippers and big stompy boots--it's all good.
She can be herself--weird, not weird, spooky, punk, preppy, gay, straight, boy, girl...whatever she turns out to be--and we'll love her no matter what.
